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Coco Chanel and Tiger Woods = Same Lesson

Coco Chanel & Igor StravinskyCoco Chanel & Igor Stravinsky

I am a proud writer for the Silicon Valley Moms Group, and every month, we have virtual book club meetings. A handful of mom-bloggers read the same book, and we each post our thoughts on our personal blogs. It’s a great way to be part of a book club, especially when I really don’t have time to attend meetings and really love books. All that said, this month’s book club selection had me stumped.

This month, members of the virtual book club read Coco Chanel & Igor Stravinsky by Chris Greenhalgh, a novel based on the life of an historic designer and revolutionary composer. I love a good biography, even if it’s in the form of a novel, and I love a strong, independent woman. But I had no idea what was in store for me.

It’s important to note: I am not a fashion plate (um, far from it), and I don’t own a thread of Coco Chanel. But I love to read about women who change history. (My two favorites are Personal History by Katharine Graham and Living History by Hillary Rodham Clinton.) So, I was so excited to read about a woman who changed the face of the fashion industry — in Paris, nonetheless — in the early 1900s. And while I learned a lot about the brilliance and vision for this woman, I was greatly disappointed by her personal character.

What I love about Coco Chanel

  • Her goal was to make woman’s clothing more comfortable, more wearable. She dumped stiff corsets and made clothes out of comfortable fabrics.  She even showed her ankles!
  • She was self-made. This woman came from literally nothing, the poorest of the poor in rural France. She earned her fortune by exercising on her vision and working hard.
  • She was a brilliant marketer. I read about how she crafted, and then sold, her now famous Chanel No. 5 perfume, and it was brilliant. I would even say she was the first viral marketer.
  • Her real name is Gabrielle Chanel, which is just beautiful

What shocked me about Coco Chanel

  • Where she was blessed with vision, intelligence and work-ethic, Coco Chanel lacked personal ethics. If the words of the book are true, she was a manipulative woman who had little concern about sleeping with married men. Well, as a woman who has a husband, reading this made me sick. The book tells the story of Coco’s obsession with composer Igor Stravinsky, and how she manipulated Igor and his family to move into her house as his wife was gravely ill. As Igor’s wife was bed-ridden and thought she was dying, Coco took Igor as her long-time lover. Now, don’t get me wrong, Igor was equally at fault here… but my point is while I was blindly impressed by Coco’s business sense, I was equally disappointed by her morals.

What I learned about myself

  • You know what, this book reminded me that no matter how much I admire someone or how revolutionary I think they are… my respect needs to stem from someone’s character rather than their accomplishments. Case in point: I am was a giant fan of Tiger Woods. That man made me want to watch golf on TV, which really is one of the most boring things ever. I liked his drive, his work-ethic, his intelligence (Stanford!), and his love for his parents. But you know the story, he cheated on his wife. And now I don’t care about Tiger Woods.
  • So, is Coco Chanel my Tiger Woods? Someone I held is high esteem until I read further? Yeah, I think so. It’s also a great reminder that we can admire someone, but we do not actually know these celebrities. They are not our friends, and they should not be our influencers. They are human, faults and all.

At the end of the day, this book was a good reminder that I need to judge and respect people based on their personal character… not their personal accomplishments.

– LTV Mom

Notes:

This book was provided by the publisher, but the words are mine and unedited.

Photo Credit: Amazon


Do One Nice Thing: and not just when it’s convenient

From time to time, the ladies and gents who write for the Silicon Valley Moms Group participate in a virtual book club.  We all read the same book and share our thoughts on our personal blogs.  I have been so overwhelmed with work and life, I skipped the past several books. But this month’s book selection was too intriguing to pass up. We read a book called “Do One Nice Thing” by Debbie Tenzer.

The concept of the book is quite simple: it offers more than a hundred easy ideas to show kindness to other people. The ideas range from donating baseball tickets to the Veterans Administration to smiling at everyone you pass on the sidewalk. Reading the book was a good exercise in self-reflection: Am I a nice person? Do I do nice things? Most importantly, am I teaching my daughter to be a nice person?

I grew up in a household that had one simple rule: if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all. (And I guarantee unkind words resulted in big trouble, especially if I was talking to my sisters!) More importantly, I grew up in a Midwestern community that was just that… a community. We treated each other with respect, kindness and generosity each and every day. If a neighbor had a baby, the neighborhood would fill her refrigerator with casseroles and lasagnas.  When our roof needed to be re-shingled, my dad’s buddies on the street spent an entire Saturday helping him. When the local downtown flooded after days and days of rainfall, the high school seniors filled and hauled sand-bags to help save the family-owned businesses.

Random acts of kindness, and making time to help others in need, fueled our community. It was who I was raised to be.

Sadly, reading this book made me realize that I have lost some of the kindness and generosity that is so important to me. I am so focused on getting through my days, so set on surviving the rat-race, I have forgotten to take time to care for others. Oh sure, I still make the goulash for the new mommy across the street and I gave my daughter’s stroller to a friend who was strapped for cash. But those things are done when they are convenient for me… not necessarily when they are needed most.

I already have working-mom guilt, always worrying about taking care of my family.  But I have had a wake-up call that I need to look beyond my four walls and care for the people who need it… when they need it.

And not just when it’s convenient for me.

– LTV Mom

If you want to explore other thoughts and opinions on being nice, please follow the dialogue on the New Jersey Moms Blog.

Comfort Food? Pass the Cream of Mushroom Soup!

Comfort Food by Kate Jacobs

Comfort Food by Kate Jacobs

My husband knows when I’ve had a bad day at work.  When he walks in the door to find me watching Cash Cab on television while making tater-tot casserole, he knows to stand back. And to pour a glass of wine.

Whether it’s a bad day at work, a cranky client or a pissed off family member, I can count on comfort food to make me feel better. I just dig through my mom’s recipe box to find some good, old fashioned Midwestern food.  Green bean casserole, hashbrown potato casserole, broccoli casserole, and (my personal favorite) tater tot casserole are bound to make me feel better.

And what is the common ingredient in all these foods?!  You got it, Campbell’s Cream of Mushroom Soup. I always keep a can of the creamy goodness in my pantry. You can’t make a good casserole without the soup!

I love talking about my personal comfort food, so i jumped at the chance to read and talk about the new book from Kate Jacobs called “Comfort Food.”  The author says this about the book: “Comfort Food is about the power of food to bring people together and the joys of savoring every bite of life.”  How great is that?

This book also gives you a behind-the-scenes look at network cooking shows. If you are a fan of cooking shows, like my personal favorites Top Chef and Chopped, you will enjoy reading about the trials and tribulations of a celebrity chef!  (Oh, if I could only have job — and looks — of Padma Lakshmi. I’d be in heaven!)

Food is such a part of my life, and this Iowa transplant always bonds over Midwestern food with other Midwesterners-turned-Californians.  Just this weekend, I met a woman from Ohio and we bonded over fried chicken, mashed potatoes and greens beans with bacon.  Sigh, I get hungry (and happy) just thinking about the food my mom made!

No matter where you grew your roots, there is always a special recipe of comfort food to calm your fears, fill your belly and warm your soul. What is your favorite comfort food?

– LTV Mom

This post was inspired by Silicon Valley Moms Blog book club selection Comfort Food by Kate JacobsUSA Today calls the book, “The kind of book you rush home to finish.”

Much to Your Chagrin: A Memoir of Embarrassment

Much to Your Chagrin by Suzanne Guillette

Much to Your Chagrin by Suzanne Guillette

“People who don’t have embarrassing stories are untrustworthy.  Or at the very least, they aren’t telling the truth.”  These words of wisdom come from author Suzanne Guillette, whose first book “Much to Your Chagrin” takes a fresh look at the moments in life — big and small — that are simply embarrassing but make you who you are!

I’d like to add a third category for people with embarrassing stories: people (like me) who are actually private and only tell their closest friends their most embarrassing tales.  Of course, many embarrassing moments are a direct result of being socially awkward or from over-consumption. Yep, PR speak for too much wine, beer, cosmos, or whatever potion I was enjoying at the time. My loud laugh and inability to keep my opinion to myself have certainly caused more than one embarrassing moment.  Let’s just leave it at that.

Reading this book brought back great memories of my dear friend Kristin, who has been an important part of my life since third grade. Kristin is the Queen of being goofy to the point of wrong.  Nine times out of 10, she will pull a stunt to get a laugh from her friends, and usually ends up with an “OMG moment” that lives in infamy.  Her spirit and energy are contagious, and even her goofs and spoofs are endearing and down-right hilarious.

With that, I am going to present my copy of “Much to Your Chagrin” to Kristin, the woman who could write her own memoir of embarrassment that I would love to read almost as much I loved witnessing.

– LTV Mom

This post was inspired by the Silicon Valley Moms Blog book club selection, Much to Your Chagrin by Suzanne Guillette.  The book is an honest memoir of embarrassing, laugh-out-loud, and oh-no-you-didn’t moments.  The book is available at Amazon,  and Barnes & Noble.

Celebrate National Reading Month and Win a LeapFrog TAG Prize Pack

Leapfrog's 1 Million Reading Hours Pledge

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Even though I blog about mindless television and working too much, I truly love and cherish reading.  I read magazines and newspapers daily, devour books when I can, and read to my four-year-old daughter daily. Equally important, I am the proud sister of a public high-school teacher and her principal husband.  Therefore, I jumped at the chance to work with LeapFrog to promote reading across the country.

The good folks at LeapFrog are working with the National Education Association (NEA) to promote National Reading Month which is held in March. LeapFrog and the NEA created the Leapfrog 1 Million Reading Hours campaign to encourage families to spend more time reading together, with the national goal of reading for 1 million hours this month.  Here’s how you can help us reach our goal.

If your family is like ours, you already spend time reading to your child daily. This month, we want everyone to pledge reading at least 10 minutes every day to help achieve our goal of reaching 1 million reading hours, all to underscore the importance of shared reading time with your family. You can pledge to read to your child for 10, 20 or 30 minutes each day, and you’ll receive a printable certificate, reading calendar and coupons good for discounts on LeapFrog products at your favorite retailer or online at Amazon.

Leapfrog, showing dedication to the cause, is offering one lucky LTV Mom reader a LeapFrog TAG Reading System with 5 amazing TAG books along with an expanded-memory LeapFrog TAG Reading System with 10 books to donate to your local library. My family has a TAG Reading System, and we love it.  It would be an honor to share this gift with you.  Here’s how you can enter:

  • Visit the 1 Million Reading Hours site and pledge to read at least 10 minutes a day to your child.
  • Return to LTV Mom and leave a comment below telling me how much time you pledged to read each day.
  • I will randomly select from everyone who left a comment, and Leapfrog will send one winner the LeapFrog Prize pack, along with the donation for your local library.

If you want to increase your chances to win, you also can enter the following ways:

  • Blog about the LTV Mom giveaway and leave a comment with the link to your post on this site.
  • Follow me on Twitter (@StacyLibby) and leave a comment on LTV Mom with your Twitter handle.
  • Add LTV Mom to your blogroll and leave a comment with the URL of your blog.

Leave a separate comment for each entry and make sure at least one of your entries contains a valid e-mail address so I can find you.  This giveaway will be live until March 31, 2009. I will randomly select the winner from all the comments on April 1.

I admire and respect LeapFrog’s efforts to work with its community to promote reading. And I really can’t believe the generosity toward LTV Mom readers.  Happy reading!

– LTV Mom

Even Moms explore reading with Leapfrog

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While I blog about my obsession with television and random pop culture, I actually am a passionate reader who desperately hopes to share my love for books with my daughter.  (If you doubt me, I just finished 900-page Pillars of the Earth and quickly dived into 1000-page World Without End!)

Humor aside, I take reading seriously and quickly jumped at the chance to join the ladies of the Silicon Valley Moms blog for an afternoon event hosted by the good people at Leapfrog. I have always admired Leapfrog from afar, first as a non-parent and then the parent of an infant.  But now my infant is a toddler, and she is prime for Leapfrog products.  Needless to say, I was an eager participant in this meet-up.

The foundation of the afternoon was a Q&A session with Leapfrog Advisory Board member Dr. Anne Cunningham, University of California, Berkeley Graduate School of Education.  Dr. Cunningham shared her ideas and research on how to help children learn to read… and how they can learn to love reading.  As an avid reader, I desperately want my child to love and appreciate books the way I do.  Thanks to Dr. Cunningham, I realize (or at least appreciate) how reading to a child is much more than a hoping for a lifelong hobby, rather setting the foundation for a life of education and success.  Here are highlights of the conversation with Dr. Cunningham and my blogging mama friends (in my words):

  • Expose your children to “rare, rich and extensive” language from 0-3 years.  The results have a huge effect on your child’s language development and reading skills.
  • Developmental milestones for literacy must be acquired at home or Pre-K to succeed in Kindergarten.
  • This can easily be achieved by talking to your kids and exposing them to multi-syllabic words and complex subjects. Just talk, don’t worry about them “getting” it all… they are absorbing words and concepts which are so important for language development.
  • Read out loud to your kids every day… they learn new words, and equally important, they learn the meaning of language and the structure of language.
  • The key to success is phonics… teaching kids how to sound-out and decode words.
  • Intelligence is not what you’re born with, but what you do with it.
  • Studies show that avid readers can trump people who are considered “smarter.”
  • The goal is a rich vocabulary by 3rd grade; if that does not occur, the delay becomes a bottleneck in 4th or 5th grade academics.
  • Teachers agree that most “overachievers” are the result of parental involvement with school.

Thank you, Dr. Cunningham, for your time and wisdom. I walked away feeling empowered and (quite honestly) more equipped to help my child read.  What a wonderful way to spend a Sunday afternoon!

Of course, the huge bonus of a Leapfrog event is receiving Leapfrog gear to try at home. I came home with a Leapfrog Tag reading system for my 4-year-old daughter, and she has not put it down since we opened it.  She works with it (literally) every day, and I highly suggest it for other moms who want to help kids explore reading. 

If you want to learn more about Leapfrog, please explore the Leapfrog Community which can be found HERE. If you need smart holiday presents, go HERE and feel free to use the blogger discount code HY8BHPR at check-out!

– LTV Mom

Donors Choose: Buying Books for our Schools

While I’m LTV Mom, and I also am a writer for Silicon Valley Moms Blog.  I am so proud to share the news that the Silicon Valley Moms Blog is partnering with a wonderful non-profit organization called Donors Choose that supports our Silicon Valley teachers who don’t have enough funding to educate their students.

I am continually asked to support various non-profits, all of them worthy of my time and dollars.  But, how can you argue with helping kids learn and exposing kids to the wonderful world of books?

Click HERE to learn more and click HERE to donate.

Maria Shriver asks “Just Who Will You Be?” (THE VIDEO)

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I recently wrote about my amazing meeting with Maria Shriver (click HERE), and am happy to share video from the evening. 

The video is broken into four different YouTube links, so I will direct you to my "other" blog, Silicon Valley Moms Blog (click HERE) to watch Maria share her words of wisdom. 

Enjoy!

The Shadow of the Wind

The_shadow_of_the_windEven though I blog about television, I really love reading good books.  As we all know, once you have a kid, you can kiss your quality book-time good-bye.  I can find time to read magazines, newspapers, and many blogs… but finding time to read a book is a precious commodity.

That said, moms who like to read books *cherish* solo airplane time because it allows big chunks of time to dive into a book.  I had some travel-time recently, but was disappointed after selecting some dud books.  I even picked up the newest book from my beloved Alice Sebold, and just could not finish the darn thing.  (Sebold’s must-read is The Lovely Bones, but skip The Almost Moon.)

However, my most recent read was worth the wait. My dear friend Vicki sent me her copy of The Shadow of the Wind, and it was memorizing from start to finish.  I devoured the book (which was an awesome distraction during my 4-hour layover in Chicago), and deeply loved (and deeply hated) each wonderful character.

The book was written in 2001 by Spanish writer Carlos Ruiz Zafon, and was translated to English in 2004.  The story takes place in post-Spanish Civil War Barcelona, and tells the tale of a young boy named Daniel who loves books.  Daniel discovers a treasured book with a rich history, and as he investigates the mysterious author, the boy finds trouble, love, danger and passion as he tries to uncover the mystery of his beloved writer.

The Shadow of the Wind is truly a good read, and worth the precious time of a mother who craves good books.

Maria Shriver asks “Just Who Will You Be?”

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Yesterday, the writers for Silicon Valley Moms Blog were invited to a private book signing with California First Lady Maria Shriver.  Ms. Shriver is promoting her newest book, "Just Who Will You Be?", so I read my copy and eagerly waited to meet her.

I arrived at a book store in Palo Alto, sampled some delicious (and low fat!) ice cream, and waited for her arrival.  Ms. Shriver arrived (on time I might add!), and was warm, personable, polished and (as expected) smart. I loved her. 

Of course, I don’t know her, but I really liked what I heard from her.  During our hour-long meeting, she shared her experiences as a journalist turned mother, turned working-mother, turned author, turned First Lady. Always a champion for social causes, always a Shriver. 

One of my fellow bloggers, Robin Roark, captured some of her favorite messages from Ms. Shriver, which I will share as well:

"Having been a workaholic all my life, I advocate for more moments
of joy in your life.  Because when you look back, that’s what you’ll
remember."

"Moms are 24×7 in the front lines of humanity.  Are you man enough to try it?"

"Having any time yourself – I didn’t know it was possible.  I was
raised where any time to do something for yourself was selfish.  It’s
ok to give yourself permission to do it. "

"I grew up thinking that if I didn’t run for office, I’d be a
disappointment. I grew up with a lot of ’shoulds.’ I’ve worked quite
hard to let that go. "

[On being a working mother] "Looking back I was way too
stressed about finding a balance.  Those were jobs I loved.  Hated to
give them up.  But I did.  With each child, my job decreased. I
shouldn’t have tried to shove it all together.  I didn’t have the
courage to say that I wasn’t going to work at all."

"I have one wild and precious life.  To put my wild and precious life at the end of the line is no longer acceptable."

Thank you, Ms. Shriver, for taking time to meet with us, for sharing your experiences, and for inspiring moms everywhere!